Is the fear of what others think holding you back? Shelley Johnson shares how to let it go

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Nov 27, 2024

Shelley Johnson, a leadership coach and columnist for The Age and Sydney Morning Herald, dives into the psychological barriers caused by fearing others' judgments. She discusses how this fear can stifle personal growth and offers practical strategies to overcome it. Shelley emphasizes the importance of purposeful sharing at work and warns against oversharing, suggesting it undermines trust. She also critiques the notion of 'bringing your whole self to work,' advocating instead for bringing your best self to foster a healthier workplace culture.

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ANECDOTE

Clothing Criticism

Amantha Imber recalls being publicly criticized for her clothing choices during a speaking competition.
This experience, though embarrassing, solidified her commitment to staying true to herself.

ADVICE

Evaluating Feedback

Evaluate feedback by considering the source's credibility and the feedback's usefulness.
Decide whether to accept or reject feedback based on your own goals and values.

ADVICE

Finding Mentors and Peers

Seek mentors early in your career for valuable guidance.
Build a diverse community of peer mentors for support and perspective.

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Most of us worry about what others think of us at some point. But have you ever considered how that might negatively impact your ability to achieve your goals?

Shelley Johnson is a renowned leadership coach, columnist for The Age and Sydney Morning Herald and the host of top-ranking podcast This Is Work.

I sat down with Shelley for a chat around how we let people’s perceptions of us dictate our actions, and in some worst-case scenarios, stifle our growth.

In this episode, Shelley and I share:

- The damage that can be done to your development by fearing what other people think

- Strategies you can use to overcome the fear of other’s judgment

- What you should be doing instead of oversharing at work if you want to have a positive impact.

- Why "bringing your whole self to work" might not be the best idea and what you should do instead

- Some techniques for handling stress and stopping it from overflowing at work

Key Quotes:

“Oversharing doesn't build trust, it actually undermines trust."

“Bring your whole self to work is different to bring your best self to work."

“Every time you get feedback you have a choice. Is this someone A) that I value their opinion. Is this B) useful and C) what do I then do with it?"

Connect with Shelley via Linkedin, Instagram, Boldside’s Instagram or go to the website for Boldside.

My latest book The Health Habit is out now. You can order a copy here: https://www.amantha.com/the-health-habit/

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Host: Amantha Imber

Sound Engineer: The Podcast Butler

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