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216. How to Talk About Sex With Anyone: Hookups, Long-Term Relationships & Everything In Between

May 28, 2025
Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast, shares her insights on navigating sexual conversations with ease. She emphasizes the importance of community in fostering sexual confidence and unlearning the shame rooted in purity culture. Nicole highlights the value of self-pleasure as a stepping stone to open communication about desires. With a focus on empowering language, she discusses how connecting feelings to pleasure can lead to deeper intimacy and self-discovery.
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ADVICE

Change Your Community First

  • Change your community before starting conversations about sex with a partner.
  • Surround yourself with sex-positive content and people to learn how to communicate your pleasure without shame.
ADVICE

Practice Speaking Up Consistently

  • Practice communicating your sexual desires regularly to build confidence.
  • Walk away from partners who shame you and seek those who embrace your authentic self.
INSIGHT

Crying and Orgasms Are Linked

  • Crying intensely and having orgasms are deeply connected and both involve vulnerability.
  • Stretching sexual boundaries in a repressed society often includes emotional release like tears.
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