I spent a lotta good years abandoning myself. Taking care of me wasn’t on the priority list, so you guessed it, everything or everyone came before me. The message I was sending was, “I don’t matter, I’m not important, I don’t have a backbone”. Speaking up and standing up for what I wanted felt too awkward, so I bid farewell to my sense of self.
It’s taken a lot of years to find my way back and to stay true to the most basic and foundational work — taking care of myself. This looks like moving my body daily, giving my mind space in meditation or contemplation, having quality alone time and eating well. These are my absolute non-negotiables that I just won’t fk with anymore. No matter how full life gets, these stay!!
This is sending a message that I matter, I’m important and I’m strong mentally to honour myself”. If you’re fking with your foundations, ask yourself what are your non-negotiables and choose one to focus on. Start somewhere.