Kids Who Struggle When Plans Change, Refuse Instructions, Always Ask, “Why” #474
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Apr 30, 2025
Explore the challenges of parenting strong-willed children who often question instructions. Discover insights into the motivations behind their defiance, and learn practical strategies to enhance communication. The discussion emphasizes empathy and understanding, illustrating how supportive interactions can lead to positive outcomes. Plus, hear a listener's uplifting experience that reinforces the power of choosing understanding over punishment.
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Understanding Strong-Willed Kids
Strong-willed children often say no or ask why as a way to process instructions and evaluate better approaches.
They seek context for tasks, not simple defiance, reflecting their strategic, big-picture thinking.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Lego Morning Power Struggle
Kirk shares how rushing his Lego-loving son to go out caused pushback and struggle.
He illustrates how kids react emotionally when their anticipated free time is abruptly interrupted.
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Handle Change with Calm and Context
Slow down, control your anxiety and provide context when plans suddenly change for your child.
Give your child ownership of their role with clear, specific instructions to reduce resistance.
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You ask your strong-willed child to do something that’s not a big deal, but they instantly refuse or ask, “Why?” Is your child being defiant, rebellious or difficult on purpose? Or is something else going on? Kirk gives you an actual script and 5 specific action steps so you know how to handle this situation next time.
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