PsycHacks Episode 581: Sex and attention (the most reinforcing good)
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Dec 22, 2025 In this intriguing discussion, sex is revealed as the ultimate reinforcement for men, while attention holds that same power for women. The host explores the unequal trade dynamics in relationships, highlighting how women often seek attention in exchange for sexual opportunity. Unique insights are shared about the behavioral differences between stated preferences and actual choices. The episode dives deep into how exclusivity creates power imbalances and the societal norms that perpetuate these asymmetries, making for a thought-provoking listen.
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Different Most-Reinforcing Goods
- Sex is the most reinforcing good you can give to a man and attention is the most reinforcing good you can give to a woman.
- This asymmetry gives each sex the power to strongly influence the other's behavior in relationships.
What Women Reward Shapes Men
- Women could shift male behavior by rewarding men who display desired traits with sex.
- Yet many women complain about traits they still reward, so those behaviors persist.
Men's Attention Without Reciprocation
- Men commonly give attention, validation, and consideration without receiving sex in return.
- This large-scale pattern has reshaped the sexual marketplace and relationship dynamics.
