Order of Man How Men Lost Their Voice (And, How to Get it Back) | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
Dec 5, 2025
In this insightful discussion, Ryan dives into why many men struggle to assert themselves, exploring cultural conditioning that stifles confidence. He highlights the dangers of silence, such as resentment and unhealthy relationships. By framing self-advocacy as a vital leadership skill, he emphasizes that asking for needs is not selfish but a responsibility. Practical examples are provided for effective communication in personal and professional realms. Listeners are challenged to confront one difficult conversation and reclaim their voices.
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Boys' Fire Gets Sanded Into Silence
- Cultural conditioning sanded down boys' natural assertiveness into passive men who avoid rocking the boat.
- This loss of voice prevents men from communicating needs and setting boundaries in life.
Self-Advocacy Is Foundational Leadership
- If you can't advocate for yourself, you can't lead others or reliably protect and provide.
- Leadership requires clarity, boundaries, communication, courage, and risk-taking.
Advocate Responsibly, Not Selfishly
- Do not equate self-advocacy with selfishness; treat it as responsibility instead.
- Communicate your needs so you can show up as your best self without demanding the world bend to you.
