Small Things Often How to Support Your Partner When You’re Hurting Too
Jun 16, 2021
When both partners are hurting, communication is key. Set aside daily time to listen and help each other feel heard. Clearly express your needs, whether it’s a hug or space to talk. Engage in stress-reducing conversations where you listen just as much as you share. Ask empathetic questions to understand each other’s pain better. Recognize emotional triggers from the past, and balance your struggles with moments of joy and laughter. Remember, it’s okay to care for each other while navigating tough times.
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Daily Listening And Ask For Needs
- Set aside time each day to listen to each other so hurt feelings become more manageable.
- Ask for what you need instead of assuming your partner knows, even if it's just a hug.
Use 30-Minute Stress Conversations
- Practice a 30-minute stress-reducing conversation: spend half listening and half sharing about outside stressors.
- Avoid problem-solving and instead offer empathy with caring questions like, "What's the worst part of this for you?"
Avoid One-Ups And Notice Triggers
- When your partner shares, avoid one-upping them and focus on your role as listener.
- Listen for and name triggers that link current problems to past experiences to help your partner feel understood.