Wellness + Wisdom Podcast
John Wineland | A New Masculine Paradigm: Leading With Love, Living Your Truth + Healing The World
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Quick takeaways
- Expanding our capacity through practices like grounding, breathing, and self-care is crucial for showing up fully in relationships.
- To prevent unconscious projection of resentment in relationships, prioritize love by actively feeling and addressing our own needs, and by empathetically understanding and meeting our partner's needs.
- Resentment in relationships often stems from unmet needs and unaddressed wounds from childhood. Taking responsibility means understanding and communicating about our needs to create a space of mutual understanding and support.
- Embodying masculine leadership requires practicing presence, awareness, and attention in relationships, prioritizing love, and making decisions that create deeper, more meaningful connections.
Deep dives
Expanding Capacity and Prioritizing Nourishment
Expanding our capacity through practices like grounding, breathing, and self-care is crucial for showing up fully in relationships. By nourishing ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally, we have more to give to our partners. Taking time for practices like meditation, walks in nature, or engaging in hobbies helps us replenish and be present for our loved ones.
Tuning into What Love Wants
In order to prevent unconscious projection of resentment in relationships, it is important to prioritize love. This means getting in tune with what love wants in the moment, both for ourselves and our partners. By actively feeling and addressing our own needs, and by empathetically understanding and meeting our partner's needs, we can nourish the relationship and avoid fostering resentment.
Awareness and Honesty in Relationship
Resentment in relationships often stems from unmet needs and unaddressed wounds from childhood. Taking responsibility means being aware of our own limitations and making honest negotiations with our partners about what we can provide. By understanding and communicating about our needs, we can work together to create a space of mutual understanding and support.
The Power of Embodied Masculine Leadership
As men, embodying masculine leadership means practicing presence, awareness, and attention in our relationships. It requires expanding our capacity and committing to nourishing ourselves so that we can show up fully. By connecting with our hearts and the hearts of our partners, we can make decisions that prioritize love and create deeper, more meaningful connections.
Importance of Cultivating Self-Love and Love for Others
Cultivating self-love and love for others is crucial for personal well-being and effective relationships. Low energy and neglecting self-care can hinder one's ability to love themselves and others. It is important to prioritize self-care and ensure access to healthy snacks and nourishment throughout the day. Engaging in practices that promote inner well-being, such as consuming ketones, can help regulate appetite and provide sustained energy. By acknowledging the importance of self-love and prioritizing self-care, individuals can cultivate greater capacity for love and healthier relationships.
Understanding the Wounded Projections of Men
Men often struggle with understanding the needs and desires of their partners. They may feel confused despite their efforts to fulfill their partner's requests. The myth of being a 'good husband' based on traditional values, such as being a provider and protector, is no longer sufficient. Women are awakening to new currencies of love, including presence, depth, humor, and embodiment. Men are called to embrace a deeper understanding of these qualities and integrate them into their relationships. It is important for men to be patient with themselves and give grace to the learning process as they navigate new ways of loving.
Healing Generational Wounds and Taking Responsibility
Many individuals carry the wounds of their parents and ancestors, which can affect their own relationships. To break the cycle, it is essential to take responsibility and heal these wounds. By recognizing and acknowledging the impact of past traumas, individuals can embark on a journey of self-healing. This involves being transparent about personal wounds and actively working on changing familial patterns. The transformation requires diving deep into personal practices and embodying new ways of relating. It is a lifelong commitment to continuous reflection, growth, and conscious choices in order to create healthier, more loving relationships and break free from generational limitations.
Each unconscious abdication of leadership in a relationship is a pin prick to her heart. Over the course of the years, thousands of these moments will scar or harden her. As time went by she and she felt your lack of presence, awareness, and attention to her body and feelings, she got angry. - John Wineland
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Wellness + Wisdom Episode 538
John Wineland, a teacher, speaker, and entrepreneur, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast to discuss his own obstacles in life, why we need to expand our capacity for presence within our relationships, and what the new masculine paradigm looks like.
Are you ready to explore the new masculine paradigm and learn how to lead from a place of love?
In this episode, you will learn how to navigate romantic relationships, why we need to heal generational trauma, and what it means to receive the wisdom of the moment.
Listen To Episode 538 As John Wineland Uncovers: [01:30] Navigating Grief And Loss- John Wineland
- What motivates John to seek men's groups and create one himself.
- 382 Stefanos Sifandos | What Inner Work Actually Is: Exploring Ego Death, Health Freedom & The Scale of Awareness
- 361 Luke Storey: Relationships, Consciousness, & Coming Home To Yourself
- From the Core: A New Masculine Paradigm for Leading with Love, Living Your Truth, and Healing the World by John Wineland
- Why he's been feeling confused after losing his only child.
- 332 John Wineland: Your Guide To Masculine & Feminine Polarity
- Why John feels blessed and grateful for the varied life experiences he's been through.
- The importance of always having a teacher and being a student.
- What the new masculine paradigm looks like.
- How the field of awareness lets us experience reality.
- Why the toxic masculine puts productivity and achievements first.
- How toxic masculinity became a byproduct of feminism for women.
- Kendra Cunov
- Johnny Blackburn
- Why we need our hearts liberated to grow our capacity to love and lead.
- The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida
- How we can bring ancient wisdom into the modern world.
- Why breathwork is a necessary practice when it comes to awareness.
- How grounding positively impacts our nervous system.
- How to expand our capacity for presence, awareness, and attention.
- The difference between showing up as a domestic and a romantic partner.
- How the masculine hurts the feminine heart.
- Why what love wants is not always the same as what we want.
- How we unconsciously project resentment onto our partner.
- John and Julie Gottman
- Harville Hendrix
- Stan Tatkin
- Why we need to drop into our heart to feel what we need.
- The myth of a good husband.
- Why women are 100 thousand years ahead of men.
- Jordan Peterson
- John's journey to a purposeful life and clearing his family's karma.
- Alan Watts
- What it means that we're responsible for the sins of our fathers.
- It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
- 311 Mark Wolynn | It Didn’t Start With You: Ending The Cycle of Inherited Trauma
- Why epigenetics is embodied karma according to John.
- Dr. Rhonda Patrick
- How to cultivate spaciousness for trauma.
- What motivated John to start a teacher training program.
- How to activate your mind, body, and heart.
- Why slowing down is a better strategy for success.
- The beauty of receiving the wisdom of the moment.
- Paul Chek
- How wisdom can be clouded by wounding.
"There's what you want, what both of you and your partner want, and then what love wants. Tuning into what love wants may often be at the expense of what you want, sometimes at the expense of what your partner wants. Your capacity to tune into what love wants from a trustable place is a big part of masculine leadership." - John Wineland
True Change"No true change in behavior or thinking can come without an awakened body and an activated heart and a spacious mind." - John Wineland
The Wisdom Of The Moment"Stop doing, stop striving, stop practicing. Relax into receiving the wisdom of the moment through your body and wait for some intuitive thought, something to come through, some next move. Receive the wisdom of the moment. Whatever comes through you, it's coming from a deeper place than your habitual thoughts." - John Wineland
Links From Today's Show- John Wineland
- 382 Stefanos Sifandos | What Inner Work Actually Is: Exploring Ego Death, Health Freedom & The Scale of Awareness
- 361 Luke Storey: Relationships, Consciousness, & Coming Home To Yourself
- From the Core: A New Masculine Paradigm for Leading with Love, Living Your Truth, and Healing the World by John Wineland
- 332 John Wineland: Your Guide To Masculine & Feminine Polarity
- Kendra Cunov
- Johnny Blackburn
- The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida
- John and Julie Gottman
- Harville Hendrix
- Stan Tatkin
- Jordan Peterson
- Alan Watts
- It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
- 311 Mark Wolynn | It Didn’t Start With You: Ending The Cycle of Inherited Trauma
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- Paul Chek
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- John Wineland
For over a decade, John Wineland, an LA-based teacher, speaker, and entrepreneur has been leading both men and women in the realms of relationships, sexual intimacy, and life purpose.
Known for his groundbreaking work with men, John is the founder of The New Men’s Work Project, which is charged with the lofty goal of creating 1000 men's groups worldwide and has attracted members from across the globe who are looking to lead more embodied purpose-driven lives.
With a diverse background that includes a long history as an entry, as well as in the yogic, tantric, and relational arts, John brings a wide scope of meditation, movement, and intimacy practices to his experiential workshops and coaching sessions.
John Wineland's Programs & WorkshopsToday John’s work spans the sexual divide and he’s known as much in the women’s and couples’ intimacy arenas for facilitating programs in the Art of Embodiment and Sexual Intimacy.
John’s recent workshop offerings include Beyond Your Edge: Love, Sex and Purpose on Higher Plane, Integrity as Masculine Practice, The Art of Loving Fiercely, and Breath and Sexual Energy. In 2014, John launched The Aquarian Relationship Series, a 21st-century exploration into Intimacy and Polarity practices with his teaching partner, renowned Master Kundalini Yoga Instructor, Guru Jagat.
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