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Your ADHD Besties

39. When ADHD makes you feel like you're ⚠️ TOO MUCH ⚠️ (Masking & RSD)

Feb 20, 2025
01:01:36

Hi bestiessss

On todays episode, Tara’s out of meltdown and is a bit more organised* 

*she’s doing HIGHLY profound things like sewing pants and brandishing bobbins with Chloe Wilder (Listen to Chloe’s ADHD island here),

Meanwhile Grace is taking her journals on a little beach trip (don’t worry she asked them first) in her bid to stay unperceived and allowing herself to be indulgent about meeting her needs.

🫣 RSD corner: Tara completely messed up on the style episode “Alice Bornstein” is actually called ALLISON Bornstein (click here to see her Instagram for sensational fashion advice). We also discuss why ADHDers remember so many details when it’s a hyperfocus but can’t remember someone’s name.


😻 Gorgeous Kate from the UK teaches us how to RSD about whether your cat loves 1. You, 2. Your partner or 3. Their cat tree more 

Important note: She is adorable and we’re obsessed with her 💖


💌 DILEMMA OF THE WEEK:
Nille from Norway asks: "do you have any techniques for when you’re out and about and want to calm your excitability and hyperactivity down in social situations?"

We discuss: 
✅ How cultural attitudes towards ADHD impact self-advocacy
✅ Whether telling people about ADHD & RSD upfront can help communication
✅ The balance between masking for safety vs. embracing your true self
✅ How ADHD stimulant medication, movement techniques & support groups can help socialising

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling “too much” in social settings, this episode is for you, baby girl!

🥳 Ireggy seggy TIIIIME!

This week we play "RSDelightful" - a new segment where we read out RSD moments submitted by YOU GUYS and discuss... because we haaaard relate. We also get caught up in a deep dive no one asked for on why ADHDers might struggle with competitiveness while playing games - who knew we had so much to say?

🤌 RECS:

We forgot to do them - VERY on brand  🫠 ✨

We’ll be back in your cute little neurodivergent 👂s next Thursday.

Don’t RSD EVER PLZ 💃🏻


Love ALWAYS Tara and Baby G xxxxxxxx



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