Episode 73: Our Happy Divorce with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo

Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo still share a happy life with their son Asher and their spouses and children. 

As we continue Parenting Month on The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, Ben and Nikki join me to discuss their happy divorce story. Yes, happy. There is no villain in their story. As you’ll hear in this episode, they came to a spot in their divorce where they took accountability for their actions and worked together to create a new life for their separated family. 

If you’re thinking, "This could never happen to me," I’d like to offer a word of caution: please don't compare where you're at in the divorce process with Ben and Nikki's journey. Instead, use their story as inspiration. We hope that you end up in a place where you see a happy divorce as something you can work to achieve.

Show Highlights

• The red flags that came up on their wedding day, about getting married. (12:20)
• The story of their divorce, how it went from what looked like an ugly divorce to one of agreement and solace. (14:52)
• Divorce doesn't screw up kids. It's how we do our divorces. (20:39)
• We all take responsibility; we both have to take responsibility for our parts. (30:18)
• Ben and Nikki' s negative experience going to divorce class. (36:06)
• Advice for those getting divorced who may not be in the same place as Ben and Nikki, what you can do if you are on one side of divorce and not being met on that side by your partner. (53:50)
• New relationships after divorce, Ben and Nikki got their new significant others on board with your unique link. (57:40)

Learn More About Ben and Nikki:From weeknight dinners and homework sessions to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki and Ben have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.

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