“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers
You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science that proves things we’ve known all along.
Not everyone needs the science, and I know some think the science detracts from the powerful truths that people have been brave enough to say and believe without having science to back it up.
I think both approaches are fine. I just happen to like the science.
And yup, the science backs it up.
Acceptance really is needed if we want behavior to change.
I find this truth to both a bummer and also quite liberating.
How do we accept something without sending the message the it’s ok, no big deal, and there’s no need for it to change?
It’s hard, but possible. You’ll hear my own journey toward this truth and a couple tips on how to do it yourself in this episode.
Read a long summary of this episode here: https://robyngobbel.com/howbehaviorchanges
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