Stefanos Sifandos - Confronting the Inner Child (and How to Heal it)

Aug 14, 2020

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*SUMMARY*

In this episode, I engage in an explosive chat with Relationship Expert Stefanos Sifandos who helps us understand the importance of doing the inner work on ourselves as evolving humans. In very simple practical steps, the “Relationship Alchemist” teaches us how to deal with the inner child which keeps most adults stuck in unhealthy cycles and patterns. It’s time to break free. Enjoy the listen!

*SHOW NOTES*

There’s a child inside every one of us which needs to be understood and worked upon for wholesome adult life. My Guest on this Episode is Stefanos Sifandos who is well-grounded in Psychology and social behavioral science. As a coach helping others navigate through life, he was faced with his most challenging client- himself. Having gone through cycles of pain in his relationships, disconnect, disharmony, constant self-isolation, anger, an unresolved trauma from childhood, complete neglect for self, and depression, he takes us through his journey and process to wholeness.

In this insightful episode, we discuss the importance of doing the inner work on ourselves and rewriting our harmful patterns as evolving humans so that we can live a whole and truly fulfilling life without keeping up appearances. We delve into the issue of letting go of past trauma and abuse where Stefanos advises us to learn to Feel and not suppress emotions, Forgive the past, and break free. (Shall we call them the 3 F’s?)

While addressing the issue of societal expectation wherein men are expected to suppress their emotions, he also touches on how he’s helping other men work through unresolved trauma from childhood teaching them to put their ego aside in order to fix their insecurities.

Giving us very practical information, Stefanos analyses the inner child, it’s variants, and how we can address childhood issues which can manifest as different unpleasant emotions in adulthood. Very profoundly, he explains how we seek in adulthood things we didn’t experience from our primary caregivers as children, the struggle to self-regulate as adults and how it affects our relationships with others.

A really outstanding point which Stefanos makes is the fact that we need to get a grasp of self-awareness and not feel ashamed to get therapy, join a group, or read self-help books as long as it helps or speaks to our struggles. He also hints on understanding our attachment styles and how we receive and give love.

We stir the dark waters of porn addiction as a quick fix for insecurities and a numbing of pain that people don’t want to deal with. One thing we definitely both agree upon is the fact that individuals need to do the hard work of dealing with their unresolved issues so as to make better choices in life

Interestingly, Stefanos will be hosting an INNER CHILD WORKSHOP at the end of this month as well as a retreat from 24-28th September 2020 in Austin, Texas.

Connect with Stefanos

Website - http://www.growwithstef.com/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/StefanosSifandos/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos

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