216: How To Shed Your Shoulds So You Can Live And Work Happier With Emily Duval Ledger
Jun 3, 2024
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Emily Duval Ledger shares tips on shedding societal expectations and living a happier life. They discuss distinguishing external 'shoulds' from internal motivations, finding work-life balance, and prioritizing self-care in business decisions.
Distinguish between internal desires and external 'shoulds' to prioritize personal values and aspirations.
Embrace discomfort and prioritize well-being in business by following inner calling over external pressures.
Deep dives
Recognizing and Challenging the 'Shoulds'
The podcast delves into the concept of 'shoulds' and how they influence our mindset, decisions, boundaries, and habits, particularly in business. It highlights the detrimental impact of external expectations placed on individuals, leading to the discussion on shedding shoulds to align with personal desires. Starting a business is portrayed as a step towards breaking free from societal 'shoulds' and embracing individual preferences and values. The importance of discerning between shoulds and personal desires is emphasized to prevent conformity to external pressures.
Differentiating 'Should' from 'Must'
The episode mentions the book 'The Crossroads of Should and Must', emphasizing the distinction between external shoulds driven by societal expectations and internal musts reflecting personal desires. It encourages listeners to prioritize inner calling over external pressures, advocating for following intuition and authentic wants. The discussion revolves around the origins of shoulds from childhood teachings and societal norms, highlighting the significance of identifying and prioritizing personal values and aspirations.
Reframing Work Practices and Boundaries
The hosts share insights on reframing work practices by shifting focus from hours worked to meaningful tasks accomplished. They advocate for delegating tasks, setting realistic expectations, and aligning work schedules with personal preferences and productivity patterns. The podcast stresses the importance of celebrating victories in shedding shoulds, promoting positive reinforcement, and prioritizing individual well-being in business ownership.
Embracing Discomfort and Individual Paths
The episode encourages listeners, especially business owners, to embrace discomfort in diverging from conventional paths and societal norms. It underscores the significance of being misunderstood while pursuing personal goals and making decisions that prioritize individual well-being and happiness. The hosts highlight the value of explaining decisions to others to strengthen personal resolve and assert the importance of standing firm in one's unique direction, even if it goes against mainstream expectations.
Ever feel stuck between what you want to do and what you feel like you should do? Uh, yes, all the time! How does it feel when you have these ingrained expectations making decisions for you? Usually not so great. And it happens to everyone. So in this episode we talk about why that happens, how to recognize when you're operating in external “shoulds” instead of internal “shoulds”, what to do about it. Plus we’ll give you permission to be happier AND reach your goals in the way that works best for you. Get resources, examples and experience to draw from and help propel you forward to a life and business led in the exact best way for you.