Life Coaching with Christine Hassler EP 238: Your Passion and Purpose Might Be Hiding Underneath Your Anger with Kirsten
This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today’s caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what’s going on internally.
[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238]
For many of us, we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work.
Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven’t addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy.
What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up.
Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don’t need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents.
It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn’t turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Are you wondering what’s next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing?
- Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn’t directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don’t think it impacted you?
- Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person?
- How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do?
- Does anxiety get triggered when you don’t know what is next?
Kirsten’s Question:
Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older.
Kirsten’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She is married with two children.
- She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future.
- Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother.
- She was financially self-reliant from a very young age.
- She is not fond of relying on her husband for money.
- Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members.
- She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father.
- She felt unsettled as a child.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler.
- She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father.
- She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with “I am angry because…”
- She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.
Assignments and Takeaways:
- Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body.
- If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler.
- Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
- Don’t be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm.
Resources:
Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com
Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.