Life Kit Dear LK: I'm tired of my boyfriend's lack of ambition
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Jan 12, 2023 Clinical psychologist Jody Adewale, an expert in family conflict, offers insightful advice for a listener frustrated by her boyfriend's lack of ambition. They discuss the challenges of motivating someone to change while maintaining a healthy relationship. Jody emphasizes effective communication strategies, the balance between concern and control, and the impact of gaming on personal dynamics. She also highlights the importance of self-driven ambition and suggests therapy as a potential solution for better communication and understanding in relationships.
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Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation
- Long-term behavior change is driven by intrinsic motivation.
- External rewards only offer extrinsic motivation.
Acceptance vs. Change
- Ask yourself if you accept your partner as they are.
- Trying to change someone can push you apart.
Communication is Key
- Communicate your needs and concerns directly with your partner.
- Schedule a serious conversation to address relationship issues.
