Beyond Success #29: How to Find Peace by Leaning into Chaos
Most high achievers have been sold a lie: that Chaos is a threat that will take everything from you, and the only way to handle it is with more control.
But if you look into any high achiever’s life, relationships, or business, you’ll see a similar through line: They’re quietly miserable no matter how much material success they’ve accumulated.
Why does this same story play out across so many lives?
Because when you try to control chaos, you cut yourself off from half of life. Peace doesn’t come from a lack of chaos, it comes in the midst of chaos. And chaos is the raw material of growth, creativity, love, and leadership.
The trick isn’t to compartmentalize your life so much that you don’t feel chaos. It’s to lean into the chaos, be curious with the chaos, and gain wisdom from it.
In today’s show, I’m going to dismantle the lie that chaos should be avoided by turning to ancient Chinese philosophy, Buddhist psychology, and even modern day leadership coaching. And I’ll show you how leaning into the chaos doesn’t just shift your mindset or cause a paradigm shift, it gives you an entirely new way of being.
Listen now.
Show Highlights Include:
- Why trying to control chaos is a failing strategy that will devour your fulfillment of life (0:28)
- How to flow through your problems like water down a river (and why this framework leads to more success and happiness than trying to conquer a particular obstacle) (2:55)
- The insidious way “white knuckling” your way through stress sabotages your sleep quality, your relationship, and your joy for life (3:25)
- 3 characteristics toddlers in the middle of a tantrum crave more than anything else (and no, none of the characteristics include lecturing) (6:01)
- The counterintuitive formula for peace that applies to parenting, intimate relationships, your career, and your inner, emotional world (8:20)
- How to get unstuck in your career, your relationship, and your life by leaning into chaos instead of shying away from it (11:04)
- The single best lesson from Tony Robbins that can 10x your business if you take it seriously (12:32)
- Feel stuck in a paralyzing trap of analyzing? Here’s why doing more when you feel uncomfortable emotions can only make you more lost (and what to do instead) (17:08)
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