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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Coaching Our Children: Self-Authoring, Belonging, and Personal Authority

Nov 14, 2023
Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the BrainSTOKE podcast to guide parents on fostering their child's self-authoring, establishing guardrails, and overcoming resentment. The hosts discuss coaching parents on self-authorship and personal authority. They explore raising independent children and balancing protection with autonomy. The importance of separating parental love from children's decisions is emphasized. Navigating the separation between parents and children and the concept of belonging versus fitting in is explored. They also discuss self-awareness, relationship advice, and favorite topics.
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Quick takeaways

  • Self-authorship involves internalizing societal rules and determining how they align with one's own values and choices, fostering personal agency and authenticity instead of seeking validation or fitting in.
  • Parents should balance guidance with allowing their children to explore and define their own paths, separating their own desires from their children's self-authorship to foster a sense of belonging and confidence in decision-making.

Deep dives

The Importance of Self-Authorship and Personal Authority

Self-authorship and personal authority are crucial in developing a sense of identity and intimacy in relationships. Self-authorship involves internalizing societal rules and determining how they align with one's own values and choices. It is about defining one's life through personal agency, creativity, and authenticity, rather than seeking validation or fitting in. Personal authority requires the courage to differentiate from external influences and take responsibility for one's decisions. While self-authorship can be challenging due to the fear of invalidation and not fitting in, it is essential for personal growth and fulfilling relationships.

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