Chris Hilken, a dynamic speaker focused on empowering men, discusses the often overlooked emotional journey of men. He challenges the notion that emotions are enemies, suggesting they’re invitations for growth. Hilken provides a practical framework for navigating feelings like anger and sadness through a biblical lens. He shares why emotional awareness is crucial for leadership in marriage and fatherhood. Listeners learn to discern whether their emotions draw them closer to or further from their faith, fostering an intentional relationship with their feelings.
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Emotions Are a Check Engine Light
Men often reject emotions or let them control their lives, but emotions should be redeemed for growth.
Emotions are like a check engine light, alerting us without guiding our path directly.
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Use 3 Questions to Discern Emotions
When feeling strong emotions, ask what the object, source, and fruit of the emotion are.
Use these questions to discern between godly affections and carnal, unrighteous emotions.
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Feel Emotions Without Obeying
Feel your emotions but do not obey them blindly.
Emotions should be steered by your identity in Christ, not by self-indulgence or ego.
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What if your emotions weren’t the enemy—but the invitation to grow into the man God’s calling you to be?
In this powerful solo episode, Chris Hilken explores the complicated relationship men have with their emotions. Most guys tend to fall off one side of the horse: either rejecting their emotions altogether or letting them run the show. But what if there’s a better way?
With biblical insight and real-life examples, Chris makes the case that emotions aren’t something to obey or ignore—they’re something to redeem. He shares a practical framework for navigating emotions like anger, fear, and sadness through a gospel lens, helping men avoid the extremes of emotional numbness or chaos.
This episode is a call for men to stop being passive with their emotions and start learning how to steward them like Jesus did—intentionally, righteously, and powerfully.
What You’ll Learn:
Why men are more emotional than they realize
The 3 questions every man should ask when he feels something deeply
How to know if your emotions are leading you toward Christ—or away from Him
Why “being true to yourself” is not a biblical idea
What Jesus, Nehemiah, and Esther teach us about godly emotion
How to break the pattern of reacting emotionally and start responding spiritually
Why redeemed emotions can actually strengthen your leadership as a husband and father
Mentioned in This Episode:
“Emotions are a check engine light, not a GPS” analogy
Jonathan Edwards on righteous vs. carnal affections
Mark 11 (Jesus’ righteous anger)
Genesis 4 (Cain’s destructive jealousy)
Nehemiah 1 and Matthew 27 (sadness that rebuilds vs. sadness that destroys)
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