Fearful Avoidant | The Childhood Pain That Nobody Talks About (HOW TO HEAL!)

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The Fearful Avoidant attachment style is often labelled as unpredictable, confusing, or “mixed signals.” But behind the push-pull, the self-protection, and the sudden emotional shifts is something deeper: hidden childhood pain and conditioning that never got healed.

This video uncovers that pain — the chaos, broken trust, abandonment fears, and betrayal wounds that wire the subconscious nervous system to equate love with danger. You’ll learn how conditioning forms, why your nervous system responds before you’re even conscious of it, and how ancient wisdom + neuroscience come together to create a practical path forward.

Most importantly, we walk through a step-by-step exercise to rewire the core wounds Fearful Avoidants carry, and finally stop reliving the emotional past in the present.

You’ll learn:
✅ The childhood patterns that shape Fearful Avoidant attachment
✅ Why your nervous system reacts before you can think
✅ How conditioning becomes identity — and how to break that link
✅ What ancient traditions teach about non-attachment and self-awareness
✅ Why observing your conditioning changes your relationship to it
✅ A powerful rewiring method to release abandonment, betrayal, and unworthiness
✅ How repetition and emotion reprogram core beliefs stored since childhood

Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – The Inner Childhood Pain of the Fearful Avoidant
02:28 – Fearful Avoidants Experience Chaos in Childhood
04:43 – Conditioning Shapes Our Identity
06:48 – Needs Course Promo
04:23 – Express Your Needs Early On
07:14 – Pavlovian Conditioning: Pavlov’s Dog 
09:42 – How Our Conditioning Can Affect Our Nervous System
13:14 – The Avenues to Healing 
15:36 – Non-Attachment and the Observer 
19:09 – Ancient Wisdom on Clinging to Our Conditioning 
22:16 – Rumi: “Out Beyond Ideas of Wrongdoing and Rightdoing”
23:37 – Transcendence VS Rewiring
25:14 – Belief Reprogramming – Step 1: Write Down Your Wounds and Fears
26:37 – Step 2: Find the Opposite of Your Wound or Fear
27:28 – Step 3: Come Up With 10 Pieces of Evidence Why This New Idea is Possible  
28:23 – Your Subconscious Mind Speaks In Emotions and Imagery
31:22 – Record and Listen Back for 21 Days
32:18 – Bowl of Light 

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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