392: Why is it so hard to quit porn!? (ft. Jason Lange)

How do you know if you're addicted to porn?

Instead of addiction language, some mental health specialists use the term Problematic Porn Use to discuss this. The heart of it is the same, however: How do I stop watching porn? (and why is it so freakin' hard to stop using porn??)

Here we delve into the topic, but not from a shame-based point of view. Instead we look at the underlying needs that are met by porn use -- and how to move beyond it.

The truth is that this is a complex and intricate subject. It's not as simple or easy as "just stop" -- and whether it's an outside force or your own inner critic saying this, it's simply not helpful (and often damaging).

As with many things in life, the truth is, as Jason puts it: “You CAN do this. You just can’t do it alone.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

• Dear Men 358: Do you trust men?
• Dear Men 262: Are you lonely?

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Memorable quotes:

• “When we don’t know how to share what’s inside of us, most men will default to is ejaculating it out.”
• “Porn is a subset of the attention-hijacking we’re all in the middle of right now.”
• “It was very disempowering to feel like I didn’t have control.”
• “You get exactly what you want and you can’t be rejected.”
• “As our system gets larger, we don’t need certain crutches anymore.”
• “I hit a certain level of stress, and my body does this.”
• “I changed my life so I wasn’t hitting that trigger switch.”
• “You CAN do this. You just can’t do it alone.”