Inside the Fight: How Attachment Styles Play Out in Real Time

In this 3rd episode in our series on attachment styles, Joree and John take attachment theory off the page and into real life, breaking down patterns into tangible examples of how anxious and avoidant patterns play out in the middle of an argument. As we know, arguments in love are never just about the dishes or the eye rolls; they’re often old wounds and hidden fears playing out in real time. A very common pattern underneath the dynamics is the anxious partner’s fear of abandonment, the avoidant partner’s shame and shutdown, and the painful stories of being “too much” or “not enough” that fuel disconnection. With humor, vulnerability, and hard-won lessons from their own relationship, Joree and John unpack how to slow down reactivity, spot the deeper patterns, and ways to practice repair that leads to true secure attachment. This isn’t theory — it’s the messy, human reality of how fights can either break you apart or bring you closer.

 

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