The Couples Therapist Couch 222: Emotional vs. Problem-Solving Communication with Shane Birkel
Sep 10, 2024
Discover the fascinating world of emotional versus problem-solving communication in relationships. Learn why misunderstandings occur and how to support your partner's emotional needs, especially during tough times like dealing with infidelity. Explore effective strategies for navigating difficult emotions while balancing practical solutions. Plus, find out how engaging with a community of therapy enthusiasts can enhance your skills and deepen your understanding of relationship dynamics.
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Misunderstandings in Communication
- Couples often misunderstand communication styles, desiring connection while receiving problem-solving.
- Society encourages fixing emotions instead of processing them.
Define Conversation Goals
- Understand the purpose of your conversations; are you seeking connection or solutions?
- Ensure both partners agree on the communication goal.
Impatience Post-Affair
- Six months post-affair, hurt partners may still experience pain, while the other partner grows impatient.
- Shane Birkel discusses the common dynamic of impatience and dismissal after infidelity.