The Sabrina Zohar Show

163: ⁠The Psychology Behind Black-and-White Thinking

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Sep 26, 2025
Explore how faulty thinking can sabotage your dating life. Discover the pitfalls of black-and-white thinking, where one misstep leads to sweeping conclusions. Learn about catastrophizing, where anxiety inflates fears to epic proportions. Uncover mental filtering, which skews your perception toward the negatives. Join in as personal stories illustrate how we escape our pain through fantasies, and gain practical tools to challenge these unhelpful thoughts. It's time to untangle your mind and improve your love life!
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ANECDOTE

Prison Bae Escapism Story

  • Sabrina describes finding a handsome man on Instagram while her mother was sick and using the fantasy as escapism.
  • The connection was entirely online, he was in prison, and they never met yet the fantasy soothed her pain.
INSIGHT

Brain Shortcuts Cause Dating Errors

  • Sabrina explains the brain prefers shortcuts because it processes millions of bits per second but only consciously handles a tiny fraction.
  • Those heuristics served survival but misfire in modern dating, producing quick, inaccurate judgments.
INSIGHT

Black And White Thinking In Dating

  • Black and white thinking forces complex dating experiences into binary categories like 'interested' or 'not interested.'
  • Stress and anxiety increase this either/or default because the brain prefers certainty over nuance.
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