Chad Ford, an international conflict mediator and author of '70 x 7,' joins the discussion to explore how fear drives conflict in relationships. He emphasizes that conflict is natural in marriage and should be handled constructively. Chad introduces the concept of the 'risk of embrace' for deeper connections and highlights the necessity of true reconciliation over mere forgiveness. He also shares practical tips for navigating conflict styles, fostering empathy, and transforming grievances into compassion, ensuring stronger marital bonds.
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Fear Drives Conflict Styles
Fear in marriage drives common conflict styles: avoidance, accommodation, and competition.
Recognizing these fears helps partners understand destructive patterns and open paths to healthier conflict resolution.
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Assess and Change Conflict Style
Identify your conflict style using tests and reflect on whether it's effective.
If your current style fails, be willing to learn collaborative problem-solving skills.
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Conflict Starts Relationally at Home
Conflict is always relational and starts with a breach and blame in expectations.
Improving conflict management at home builds essential skills useful in broader social and political conflicts.
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Chad Ford's "Dangerous Love" explores principles of radical forgiveness and conflict transformation, offering insights into resolving deep relational wounds. Drawing from his experiences as an international conflict mediator, Chad presents strategies for moving from destructive to constructive conflict patterns. The book emphasizes the importance of truth, justice, and a commitment to change for true reconciliation. It encourages readers to practice the "risk of embrace" and to transform complaints into invitations for deeper connection. By applying these principles, individuals can cultivate healthier relationships and break free from cycles of blame and resentment.
70 x 7
70 x 7
Jesus' Path to Conflict Transformation
Chad Ford
In this book Chad shows us that it's a matter of following Jesus himself. It provides a wealth of real examples and suggestions for getting started at home, in my ward, or in my workplace. It explores how to take seriously the Savior's call to love your enemies and President Nelson's invitation to be peacemakers without sacrificing our integrity. He looks at this work of peace building in the light of the gospel. It can be found on the Maxwell Institute website.
Chad Ford returns to share powerful insights from his new book 70x7, exploring how fear drives conflict and how radical forgiveness can transform our marriages and relationships. His work as an international conflict mediator brings unique perspectives on moving from destructive to constructive conflict patterns.
• Understanding that conflict is natural and inevitable in marriage—the goal isn't eliminating conflict but handling it well • Recognizing common conflict styles: avoidance (burying issues), accommodation (always giving in), and competition (needing to win) • Practicing the "risk of embrace"—opening arms in invitation, waiting, embracing, and gracefully letting go • Moving beyond "forgive and forget" to true reconciliation through truth, forgiveness, justice, and assurance of change • "Rolling away stones"—choosing to give partners what they need rather than what we think they deserve • Transforming complaints into invitations for deeper connection • Starting "close in" by practicing conflict transformation skills at home before tackling larger societal conflicts
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