288/ The unknown self-sabotage; Are you in survival mode? Stressed out? / Paula Rastrick

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Alot of women are in this high functioning state - trying to be everything do everything, please people, get everything right

Set unrealistic standards

Perfectionism

Repression - shut up and get on with it.

Emotional regulation and how the body knows more than we are aware of

We are too busy trying to do do do tick boxes we don't slow down to understand us

We try to suppress vs understand

To ignore vs regulate

I am an anxious person

How can this show up in our day to day lives and impact our wellbeing & quality of life

How do you help women through it?

Do you find that many women arent even aware of the state they are in because its become their normal?

Fight flight all day long

Especially post lockdown

So we are living in this survival mode

Which is why we come up against sticking points in our journey and we don't know how to get back control so we try to control our bodies

Our image

We try to fit an image to feel like we belong and relatedness

Its safe to us for some reason

So we sabotage ourselves wanting this body image that isnt the true end goal

But we can control it and we can be busy, the need to do more be more

You say this is fear based distraction and so much more -

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Its almost like what are we missing in our lives to try to stay busy or fix our bodies

To control some form of our lives

Or on the other hand when things slow down

When we get a chance to rest

We then see that as an opportunity to emotionally eat

Why do women have more sensitive nervous systems

How can gut health also show up in this

Talking about how menopause can trigger this more

Pain is never about the site of pain but our perception and also how bio psycho social impacts it and thats the same with how we approach our fitness journey and how our brain and body work together in this

How does low estrogen then impact how we respond to things, how our brain responds

Why is it difficult to meditate when stressed.

Highly sensitive

What helps to calm the brain period thus is the hardest for me.

How can you teach a brain to trust itself more

Are there somatic body therapy recommendations to help feel instead of talking. I've done years of talking. I think the combination of body work would help immensely.

How to regulate nervous symptoms when experiencing trauma.

What type of therapies can help desensitised.

What practises help transition through menopause with a disregulated nervous system.

Are there herbs or supplements that can assist calming brain and nervous symptoms.

Can you flight and fight mode from trauma be constantly activated.

How can you help slow down someone who is in this go go most & what do you recommend to help desensitise to then help us regulate

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