Renowned therapist Terry Real discusses gender dynamics, shared humanity, and self-improvement in relationships. He emphasizes transitioning from rigidity to forgiveness and understanding, challenging biases, and promoting his new book on essential relationship skills.
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insights INSIGHT
We Are Relational, Not Rugged Individuals
Western individualism is a myth; humans have relational brains wired to co-regulate each other.
Thinking ecologically and relationally shifts power-from-over to power-with in relationships and society.
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Which Part Of You Is Speaking?
Terry Real distinguishes between the wise adult (prefrontal cortex) and adaptive/wounded child parts that drive reactions.
Trauma and adaptive strategies explain repeated destructive relationship patterns unless you cultivate a different response.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Choose Loving Firmness Over Harshness
Cultivate self-esteem by holding yourself warmly despite imperfections and avoid harshness toward self or others.
Replace harshness with loving firmness because it achieves better results and keeps you in the mature part of the brain.
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Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist and author. Particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men, his work on gender and couples. In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others. He has been in private practice for thirty years and he is the Founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples. Terry's book, "The New Rules of Marriage" shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationships. www.terryreal.com
JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcasts including People's Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women's Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
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