Ep. 349: Build a More Loving Relationship with Terry Real
Jun 7, 2022
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Renowned therapist Terry Real discusses gender dynamics, shared humanity, and self-improvement in relationships. He emphasizes transitioning from rigidity to forgiveness and understanding, challenging biases, and promoting his new book on essential relationship skills.
Understanding the neurobiology of relationships can improve interactions by integrating childhood experiences with mature emotional responses.
Shifting towards ecological humility and relational thinking fosters love, empathy, and collaborative mindset in personal relationships and society.
Deep dives
Understanding Relationships from a Neurobiological Perspective
Research by Terry Reel sheds light on the neurobiology of relationships, revealing the importance of different brain aspects in interactions. He explores the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, emphasizing how understanding one's adaptive child part versus the wise adult part is crucial. By integrating this insight, individuals can improve relationships by fostering a more mature emotional response.
Shifting from Individualism to Ecological Wisdom
Terry Reel challenges the notion of rugged individualism, noting its detrimental impact on personal relationships and society. He advocates for a shift towards ecological humility and relational thinking, emphasizing that love requires a democratic approach. Recognizing the interconnectedness of all beings promotes empathy, compassion, and a more collaborative mindset.
Embracing Us Consciousness for Lasting Relationship Success
Us consciousness, as presented by Terry Reel, focuses on viewing relationships as collaborative efforts rather than power struggles. He stresses the value of relational mindfulness and the ability to shift from reactive responses to deliberate, loving communication. By prioritizing relational skills over power dynamics, individuals can cultivate healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.
Promoting Peace Through Personal and Relational Transformation
Terry Reel highlights the transformative power of personal and relational growth in fostering peace within oneself and with others. By prioritizing open communication, empathy, and collaborative problem-solving, individuals can transcend conflict and create harmonious connections. This approach extends beyond just personal relationships, offering a framework for promoting peace and understanding in broader societal contexts.
Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist and author. Particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men, his work on gender and couples. In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others. He has been in private practice for thirty years and he is the Founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples. Terry's book, "The New Rules of Marriage" shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationships. www.terryreal.com
JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and the host of several podcasts including People’s Choice Awards nominee Spirit, Purpose & Energy. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, a best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit to Attract the Love of Your Life and The Invisible Fitness Formula: 5 Secrets to Release Weight and End Body Shame. Named Best Personal Trainer in Los Angeles for 2007 by Elite Traveler Magazine, JJ has been featured in many national magazines, including Shape, Fitness, and Women’s Health as well as appeared on NBC, CBS, Fox, the CW and KTLA. Grab a free copy of the Invisible Fitness Formula at http://jjflizanes.com/book
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