Exploring why Sweden, and Stockholm in particular, are considered the best places to be single. They discuss Swedish individualism, the role of culture and politics in solo living, the influence of parental financial support in education, comparing individualism and state support in Sweden and the US, appreciating nature and solitude in urban areas, housing preferences in Sweden, and the involvement of singles in civic engagement.
Sweden offers a model for solo living with its high percentage of single person households and cultural focus on individualism and strong social democratic state support.
Sweden demonstrates a paradoxical combination of intense individualism and a strong social democratic state, enabling personal autonomy and supporting individuals' freedom to pursue less conventional paths and careers.
Swedish singles are highly engaged and socially active, breaking the stereotype of isolation often associated with solo living.
Deep dives
Sweden as the Singles Capital
Sweden, especially Stockholm, is considered the singles capital of the world. With a high percentage of single person households compared to other countries, Sweden offers a model for solo living. The trend of living alone is increasing globally due to factors such as longer life spans, immigration, and the rise of women's autonomy. Happy single individuals inspire others to embrace the solo lifestyle, and Sweden's cultural focus on individualism and strong social democratic state support plays a significant role in promoting solo living.
Swedish Individualism and Social Democracy
Sweden demonstrates a paradoxical combination of intense individualism and a strong social democratic state. Swedes can exercise their individual freedom while benefiting from a robust social support system. This model enables personal autonomy by separating individual happiness from societal expectations. Sweden's positive rights-oriented approach focuses on equal opportunity and social mobility, supporting individuals' freedom to pursue less conventional paths and careers.
Housing Preferences and Apartment Living
Swedish housing preferences align with individualism, as people in Sweden tend to choose smaller apartments, particularly one and two-bedroom units. These housing choices cater to the solo lifestyle and allow for a balance of freedom and social connections. Apartments also accommodate Sweden's unique family arrangements, where divorced parents share children between separate homes. The housing landscape in Sweden is reflective of the country's culture, promoting individual choice and flexibility.
Involvement in Associations and Civic Engagement
Contrary to the belief that solo living leads to social disengagement, Swedish singles are highly engaged and participate in various associations and organizations. Swedish individuals tend to be more socially active than those in families, breaking the stereotype of isolation often associated with solo living. This involvement in civic engagement, community activities, and associations contributes to the overall social fabric of society.
Embracing the Swedish Model
For individuals outside of Sweden seeking an individualistic lifestyle, it is essential to foster connections and create alternative opportunity structures. Embracing the solo life may involve actively joining like-minded communities, developing supportive friendships, and advocating for political and business attention to the needs and preferences of solo individuals. Taking control of personal finances and avoiding societal norms can also lead to a fulfilling and self-determined solo life, even in countries that are less supportive of solo living.
Peter McGraw recently left the Solo studio – Indiana Jones style – to investigate why Sweden, in general, and Stockholm, in particular, are the best places in the world to be single. There he came across Lars Trägårdh’s work and new co-authored book: The Swedish Theory of Love. In this episode, Lars and Peter discuss why Swedes and Swedish society is a model for going solo.