Emancipate Your Mind Emancipate Your Mind: 108: Practicing Secure Attachments in Adult Relationships
Apr 30, 2023
In this discussion, Kevin Hales, a Licensed Professional Counselor and marriage and family therapist, delves into the nuances of secure attachments in adult relationships. He shares essential steps for cultivating emotional intimacy, emphasizing self-awareness and communication. Personal anecdotes illustrate effective conflict resolution strategies, including the fundamental role of emotional validation. Through engaging metaphors like Frisbee communication, he highlights the importance of empathy and understanding in navigating difficult conversations. Learn how to reframe conflicts as opportunities for deeper connections.
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Secure Attachment Includes Insecure Parts
- Even securely attached people have insecure parts that can trigger in relationships.
- Past relationships and family dynamics can cause insecure parts to resurface unexpectedly.
Slow Down During Big Emotions
- Slow down during high emotions to keep thoughts and words from spiraling out of control.
- Use deep breaths and calm your nervous system before re-engaging in conflict or emotional conversations.
Early Marriage Break Negotiations
- Early in marriage, Teri and Kevin negotiated breaks to calm during conflict.
- Teri learned to tolerate discomfort while Kevin learned to communicate needs for breaks.