The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno Session 14: Moving Towards a Positive Cycle
Dec 9, 2025
Bethany and Brian celebrate their progress as they navigate conflict without descending into negativity. A pivotal moment occurs when Bethany articulates her feelings and receives validation instead of anger. The session dives into somatic practices to anchor feelings of safety and peace in their relationship. Bethany confronts deep-seated shame about her past financial dishonesty, and vulnerability leads to emotional closeness. They explore how past fears and power dynamics shaped their interactions, paving the way for a healthier cycle.
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Install Safety Through Somatic Work
- Positive moments with a partner can slip away because the nervous system still scans for threat.
- Somatic work helps 'install' the feeling of safety so those moments stick in the body.
Pause, Name, Regulate, Then Rejoin
- When you're too activated, pause to name the anger and explore the fear beneath it before returning.
- Take a regulated break to clarify what you need and then re-enter the conversation with structure.
A Conflict Navigated Differently
- Bethany paused and asked Brian to see her intent through a different lens before calling, then explained the emotion behind her questions.
- Brian heard her and they navigated a potential negative cycle without spiraling.
