ADHD, social awkwardness, and ghosting (Allison’s story)
Aug 8, 2023
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Allison O’Keefe, a UX designer in Detroit, discusses her journey with ADHD, including social awkwardness and accidentally ghosting people. They explore her childhood experiences, overthinking in relationships, and the benefits of therapy. Allison expresses gratitude for being interviewed and shares her aspirations for starting her own podcast.
Being diagnosed with ADHD can provide a sense of relief and reduce feelings of isolation.
ADHD can manifest in challenges such as forgetfulness, impulsivity, and difficulty prioritizing multiple interests effectively.
Deep dives
Alison's Diagnosis Story
Alison shares her journey of being diagnosed with ADHD, which began with attending a supportive webinar at work. She entered therapy with symptoms like anxiety, forgetfulness, trouble focusing, and intrusive thoughts, hoping to develop better coping mechanisms and reduce worrying.
The Discovery of ADHD
Alison's therapist asks her if she had ever been diagnosed with ADHD, which surprises her. She had never considered ADHD before, but her boyfriend recalls seeing symptoms of impulsivity, hyperactivity, and excitability. Alison explores online resources, DSM 5, YouTube videos, and podcasts to understand her experiences and ultimately finds that ADHD resonates with her.
Challenges of ADHD: Ghosting and Wishful Thinking
Alison reflects on challenges like ghosting in her life, wherein she forgets to respond to text messages or neglects to follow up on opportunities due to feelings of overwhelm. She also describes the phenomenon of wishful thinking or over-optimism, where she becomes intensely interested in a hobby or pursuit but loses interest abruptly. These challenges often stem from difficulty prioritizing and managing multiple interests effectively.
Allison O’Keefe, a UX designer in Detroit, always felt she rubbed people the wrong way. Then, in her early teen years, one of her friends confirmed it when she called Allison “the annoying friend” behind her back. This made Allison more cautious in social situations, which often overwhelmed her. Worse, she also found herself accidentally “ghosting” people, forgetting to respond to their messages.
Eventually, a therapist asked her if she’d ever been diagnosed with ADHD, and the diagnosis started to make a lot of sense. She now feels less isolated — even as she still grapples with how open she wants to be about her ADHD.
How do folks with ADHD navigate these choppy social waters? Listen in as Laura and Allison sort through these questions and more.
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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