Dating Intentionally 215. How to Date with Intention and Find Your Person w/ Julie Krapfchick & Yue Xu (throwback)
Nov 28, 2025
Join dating experts Julie Krafchick, a practical dating strategist, and Yue Xu, who specializes in modern dating trends, as they explore intentional dating. Discover how to shift your mindset from outcome-driven to enjoying the process, and learn effective screening techniques for matches. They emphasize successful daters thrive by not needing a relationship but wanting one. The guests also dive into making dates fun again and the importance of understanding your dating 'north star'. Plus, they play a rapid-fire game addressing common dating red flags!
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Screen Before You Meet
- Screen matches with a phone or video call before meeting in person to check conversational chemistry.
- Use the call to gauge compatibility beyond texting and avoid wasting in-person date time.
Dating Fatigue Is A Mindset Problem
- Dating fatigue comes from treating dates as outcome-driven rather than fun experiences.
- Reframe dates as chances to meet interesting people and enjoy the moment to restore dating magic.
Swap Interview Talk For Shared Moments
- Drop the resume-style interview on dates and talk about shared experiences instead.
- Ask about what you liked on their profile to create an "us" focused conversation that builds rapport.