Meet Judge Bruce R. Cohen (ret.): Family Court Success from Both Sides of the Bench
Feb 6, 2025
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Join retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen, who spent nearly two decades on the bench in Arizona, as he shares his wealth of experience in family law. He discusses the evolution of the 'best interests of the child' standard, moving beyond gender bias to focus on individual needs. Bruce shares personal stories that highlight the importance of recognizing humanity in each case. He offers practical insights for parents on how to effectively present their cases in court, emphasizing the child's well-being over past conflicts.
Judge Cohen emphasizes the evolving legal framework in family court, prioritizing the specific needs of children over outdated gender biases.
Effective communication techniques taught in the Conflict Influencer Class help individuals manage interactions with high-conflict people to foster collaborative problem-solving.
Deep dives
Techniques for Managing High-Conflict Situations
The podcast emphasizes the importance of teaching effective communication techniques to manage interactions with high-conflict individuals. Participants of the Conflict Influencer Class can learn strategies such as using ear statements to de-escalate conversations, applying BIF responses for responding to hostile messages, and crafting proposals to reach agreements calmly. These techniques empower individuals to approach difficult interactions with confidence, turning potential conflicts into collaborative discussions. The training aims to provide practical skills that participants can use in everyday situations to improve their interpersonal relationships.
Judge Cohen's Transition to High Conflict Institute
Judge Cohen, who has extensive experience in family law and court systems, shares insights into his transition from the judicial system to the High Conflict Institute. Having served as a judge for nearly 20 years, he reflects on his dedication to understanding human interactions and his approach to connecting with individuals in challenging situations. His commitment stems from a desire to support families facing conflict, emphasizing the importance of addressing these issues thoughtfully and compassionately. Judge Cohen's perspective brings valuable expertise to the institute, enhancing its mission to assist individuals in navigating high-conflict environments.
Best Interests of the Child in Custody Cases
The concept of 'best interests of the child' is crucial in custody decisions, and the podcast highlights its multifaceted nature in family law. Judges evaluate factors such as the child's relationship with each parent, mental health, and other relevant circumstances to determine what arrangement serves the child's needs best. The discussion also reveals how parents can present their cases effectively by focusing on a few key concerns rather than overwhelming judges with excessive information. This clarity can help courts make decisions based on the child's specific situation, rather than on outdated gender biases or assumptions.
Recognizing Patterns in High-Conflict Cases
The podcast outlines patterns that judges observe in high-conflict cases, particularly focusing on parental engagement in resolving disputes. When parents prioritize being right over finding solutions for their children’s welfare, it often signals a potential for escalating conflict. The discussion encourages parents to shift their focus toward collaboration, emphasizing the need for a supportive environment for their children. By fostering healthy co-parenting relationships, even amidst personal differences, parents can significantly impact their children's well-being, minimizing the repercussions of high conflict on their lives.
Welcome Judge Cohen: A Fresh Perspective on Family Court
Join Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter as they welcome retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen to the High Conflict Institute team. This episode explores the human side of family court proceedings through Judge Cohen's unique lens, developed over 24 years as a family law attorney and nearly 20 years on the bench in Arizona's Superior Court.
Understanding Best Interests and Judicial Perspective
Judge Cohen shares invaluable insights about the concept of "best interests of the child" and how it's applied in family court. He explains how the legal framework has evolved beyond gender preferences to focus on meeting children's specific needs. Through personal anecdotes, including the transformative "Bonnie story," Judge Cohen illustrates how maintaining presence and recognizing humanity in each case leads to better outcomes.
Breaking Down Family Court Success
The discussion delves into practical advice for presenting cases effectively in family court. Rather than chronological presentations or attempts to prove who's "right," success comes from focusing on children's needs and each parent's ability to meet them. Bill and Megan explore with Judge Cohen how understanding jurisdictional factors and avoiding assumptions about bias can strengthen case presentations.
Questions we answer in this episode:
How do judges determine what's truly in a child's best interests?
What factors should parents focus on when presenting their case?
How has gender bias evolved in family court?
What makes a case "high conflict"?
How can parents shift focus from being right to getting it right?
Key Takeaways:
Focus on children's needs and your ability to meet them rather than chronological events
Present yourself authentically rather than assuming judicial bias
Understand your jurisdiction's specific factors for determining best interests
Recognize that credibility increases when acknowledging both strengths and weaknesses
Success comes from focusing on future solutions rather than past grievances
This episode offers unique insights from both sides of the bench, providing valuable perspective for anyone navigating family court. Judge Cohen's practical wisdom, combined with Bill and Megan's expertise, creates an essential resource for understanding how to approach family court proceedings effectively.
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(00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
(02:03) - Welcome Judge Bruce R. Cohen (Ret.)
(02:30) - Judge Cohen’s Background
(07:02) - Connecting
(09:29) - The Bonnie Story
(14:19) - Time in Court
(15:21) - Bill’s Time in Court
(18:00) - Communicate Simply
(28:30) - Best Interest Factors
(30:51) - Gender Issues
(36:32) - Control What You Can Control
(38:08) - Identify Needs of Child
(40:23) - High Conflict Cases
(44:56) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Answering Listener Questions