Wendy Behary, a leading expert on narcissism and founder of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, dives deep into the complexities of narcissistic behavior. She clarifies that narcissism exists on a spectrum, debunking common myths along the way. Exploring emotional unmet needs, she highlights how narcissists often struggle with self-awareness. Behary also discusses the cultural implications of narcissism and offers practical strategies to protect mental health while navigating these challenging relationships.
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Narcissism Exists on a Spectrum
Narcissism exists on a diverse spectrum and is not a one-size-fits-all condition.
Many popular beliefs about narcissism are myths that need debunking for accurate understanding.
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Entitlement Defines Narcissism
Narcissism is uniquely characterized by high entitlement and low empathy.
This self-absorption centers on how one is perceived and disregards others unless they serve a purpose.
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Entitlement Masks Toxic Shame
Narcissists defend their behaviors by feeling entitled and blaming others for provoking them.
Beneath this lies a core of toxic shame that they are often unaware of.
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This book provides a comprehensive approach to dealing with narcissistic personality disorder, using schema therapy and interpersonal neurobiology. It offers strategies for understanding and communicating effectively with narcissists, setting limits, and gaining respect and validation. The third edition includes new information on shame, hypersexuality, infidelity, legal aspects of divorcing a narcissist, and the impact of narcissism on children. The book is designed to help readers separate themselves from narcissistic traps and navigate difficult interactions.
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Dr. Ann Kelley and narcissism expert, Wendy Behary, explore the complexities of narcissistic behavior, its development, and the challenges faced by those experiencing relationships with narcissists. Follow along as they dive into the myths, the spectrum of narcissistic traits, and the importance of understanding the underlying insecurities that drive behavior. Behary touches on the cultural implications and how it manifests in society today, as well as practical strategies for individuals to navigate relationships, highlighting the significance of maintaining one’s own mental health and well-being.
“Narcissism occurs along a spectrum within the human condition. Embodied in human nature itself is a tendency for narcissistic expression… and that isn’t all bad.” – Wendy Behary
About our Guest – Wendy Behary
With 30 years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, “Disarming theNarcissist…” translated in 16 languages. The Third Edition was recently released and was selected by Oprah Daily as one of the top books on the subject of Narcissism. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and subject matter expert on narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room. Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.
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dive into the myths, the spectrum of narcissistic traits, and the importance of understanding the underlying insecurities that drive behavior. Behary touches on the cultural implications and how it manifests in society today, as well as practical strategies for individuals to navigate relationships, highlighting the significance of maintaining one’s own mental health and well-being.
