Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 396: Why Women Orgasm More With Female Partners
May 13, 2025
Carly Wolfer, a sex researcher and Ph.D. candidate, delves into the intriguing orgasm gap between women having sex with men versus women. She discusses how sexual scripts differ by partner gender, leading to increased pleasure when women are with women. Carly emphasizes the need for changes in sex education to enhance women’s sexual fulfillment and advocates for a shift towards equitable pleasure. Listeners will find insights on transforming societal norms and empowering sexual experiences for all.
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Quick takeaways
- Women experience significantly more orgasms with female partners due to sexual scripts prioritizing mutual pleasure over male-centered expectations.
- Transforming sexual education to emphasize diverse pleasure experiences can empower women and promote more equitable sexual encounters.
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Understanding the Orgasm Gap
The orgasm gap reveals that women experience orgasms less frequently with male partners compared to female partners. This phenomenon is not rooted in biological differences but is instead determined by the social and relational contexts of sexual encounters. Research shows that when sex is centered around men's orgasms or involves penetration, women's pleasure tends to be sidelined, leading to lower orgasm rates. In contrast, when women engage with other women, sexual scripts prioritize mutual pleasure, resulting in higher orgasm rates that challenge the notion of innate differences in sexual response.
