395: Welcome! Here's how to get the most out of this podcast.

We've got close to 400 episodes, and with the new year, I felt inspired to categorize Dear Men in order to help you get the most out of it!

I've broken it down into six buckets, then listed episodes in an order I believe would be supportive to listen to:

1. Do you identify as a Nice Guy?

If you already know about Nice Guy Syndrome (perhaps you've even read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover), you'll love these. If you've not yet heard about it but your spidey sense is going off, it's probably a good time to learn more:

• 374: The 3 main archetypes of men. Which one are you? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 239: Realized I’m a "Nice Guy." Now what do I do about it? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 367: 'For some reason, I tend to attract "projects."' (ft. Jason Lange)
• 289: Do Nice Guys tend to attract volatile women? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 235: 'I see a beautiful woman and immediately get triggered. Why?' (ft. Jason Lange)
• 340: Top 3 traits we've seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! (ft. Jason Lange)
• 295: Ever 'fallen into' a relationship? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 284: Is cheating (including emotional affairs) correlated with Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 296: What does it actually mean to step into your power? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 315: What happens once you’ve recovered from Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Dr. Robert Glover)

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2. Ever been with an emotionally volatile partner?

If you've ever been with a partner who scared you, who had a lot of emotional intensity, and around whom you felt you were walking on eggshells, then it's time to understand Borderline Personality Disorder. (This could rock your world!)

• 319: 'My relationship is war.' (What do I do?) (Ft. Jason Lange)
• 128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder (ft. Violet Lange)
• 313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder)
• 354: What’s it like treating Borderline Personality Disorder? (Pt. 1) Ft. Setareh Vatan
• 373: What's it like treating Borderline Personality Disorder (pt. 2) (ft. Setareh Vatan)
• 345: The 4 male "types" who partner with Borderline women (Borderline Personality Disorder) (ft. Violet Lange)
• 163: Ever had red-hot sex with someone who's bad for you? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 221: What's her feminine storm, and what's abuse? (ft. Violet & Jason Lange)
• 386: GuyTalk: How do you co-parent with a challenging partner? (including Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder)

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3. Are you curious about sexy time?

We have tons of fun episodes on this! Everything from sexual fantasies to episodes with erotica writers. Here's just a taste:

• 37: Secrets of a Sex Researcher (ft. me!)
• 388: GirlTalk: The reddest, hottest sex we've ever had (as women)
• 318: GirlTalk: Role play in sex. What's it like!?
• 152: GirlTalk: How to go down on a woman so she *loves* it
• 189: GirlTalk: Does size matter?
• 282: Anal sex! Yep, we’re talkin’ about it. (ft. Sara)
• 245: What's it like to be swingers? (ft. John & Jackie Melfi)
• 119: GirlTalk: Blowjobs! What we like and don't like in oral sex on men
• 384: What's the impact of circumcision on a man? (ft. Michael Smith, Intactivist Educator)
• 390: What is foreskin restoration? (ft. Bob Werner)

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4. Are you dating/wanting to date?

Whether you're wanting to "date better," or you're getting back out onto the scene after a major relationship has ended, you'll find a gem in here:

• 186: GirlTalk: Approaching us in the wild (the "cold approach")
• 220: How do I tell if she likes me? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 136: GuyTalk: Dating after divorce
• 387: GirlTalk: What inspires a woman to deeply trust a man?
• 360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!
• 358: Do you trust men? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 335: Ever felt like women had a 'list' in dating & relationships? (ft. Violet Lange)
• 344: 3 dating myths to let go of immediately (ft. Jason Lange)
• 337: GirlTalk: Ever felt like she’s testing you?
• 341: GirlTalk: The most important relationship skill of them all
• 324: What does it mean to open a woman? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 291: Want to get better at dating? Here are 3 ways to practice with women (ft. Violet Lange)
• 138: GirlTalk! When should you text her vs. call her?

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5. Want to know more about trauma healing?

Eventually we all come to realize how messed up we are. ;) It is at that point that it's helpful to learn more about how to un-learn damaging patterns.

The good news is that it's never too late, and major breakthroughs are more than just possible when you put in the right effort and get the right support -- they're probable.

• 320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma (ft. Jason Lange)
• 123: What exactly IS somatic therapy, and how does it differ from talk therapy? (ft. Z Zoccolante)
• 379: Can ketamine really treat depression (and PTSD and ADHD)? (ft. Sam Mandel)
• 314: Can microdosing help you develop better relationships? (ft. David Romero)
• 300: What's it like to do MDMA therapy with your wife? (ft. Lucas)
• 278: Need a breakthrough? Try breathwork. (ft. Luke Adler)
• 371: GuyTalk: What's it like doing in-person men's work?
• 150: Want a happy, healthy relationship? Ancestral trauma healing. (ft. Ben Goresky & Mark Wolynn)
• 166: Can psychedelics help heal you? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 159: It happens to boys, too. Somatic therapies to heal from sexual abuse (ft. Rahi Chun)
• 155: Overcome anxious/avoidant attachment with somatic therapy modality Network Spinal Analysis (ft. Dr. Matt Kreinheder)
• 223: Sexological bodywork, somatic sex education, and overcoming trauma (ft. Chris Muse & Alyssa Morin)
• 199: Want to overcome trauma quickly? De-armoring can help (ft. Sunny Ju)

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6. Are you in partnership? Learn about polarity!

If you've ever been in a sexless marriage, or a love relationship where you wished there was more sexy time happening, polarity is likely a big part of what's going on. Or even if your relationship is good and you want to take it to GREAT, this is the topic for you.

Polarity is a key concept in our work, and it is the balance between masculine and feminine energies, which we often talk about as "alpha" and "omega" energies.

• 380: What exactly IS polarity? (ft. Violet Lange)
• 394: Why is polarity so critical for attraction? (ft. Jason Lange)
• 292: Sex life with your wife not where you want it to be? Reverse polarity could be the culprit (ft. Violet & Jason Lange)
• 360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!
• 357: GirlTalk: What does it mean to “claim” her (and why does she love it)?
• 297: The problems with polarity (ft. Jason Lange)
• 293: Give it to me whining! (Ft. Jason & Violet Lange)
• 277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well. (ft. Jason Lange)
• 66: GirlTalk: When men do this, we get wet.
• 342: Are you scared of her big feelings? This may help. (ft. Jason Lange) [replay]
• 250: How do you re-polarize a relationship (bring back the spark)? ft. Jason Lange
• 322: 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman (ft. Jason Lange) [Replay]