Guvna B, MOBO-award winning rapper, discusses toxic masculinity, grief, and finding blessings in the struggle. They explore vulnerability, faith, identity, race, and inter-generational trauma. The conversation also touches on failures in exams, driving tests, and mobile phone storage, as well as approaching difficult conversations and expressing gratitude.
Acknowledging and embracing all emotions is crucial for processing grief and moving forward in life.
Failure should be seen as an opportunity for growth and personal development, rather than a reflection of one's worth.
Seeking therapy and addressing mental health is essential in navigating through grief and life's challenges.
Deep dives
Lessons from Grieving
Isaac shares the profound lessons he has learned from the deaths of his father, best friend, and another friend, emphasizing the importance of embracing all emotions and not feeling guilty for how one feels.
Dealing with Failure and Success
Isaac reflects on his experiences of failure, including disappointing AS level results and reckless spending, emphasizing the need to work hard and not cut corners. He also discusses how success is now defined by personal growth and making a positive impact on others.
Navigating Grief and Therapy
Isaac opens up about his journey of grief and the various ways he coped, including his experience with therapy. He encourages others to seek therapy, emphasizes the importance of finding the right therapist, and highlights the need to address mental health.
Challenges of Cultural Baggage
Isaac discusses the cultural baggage he faced, particularly the toxic masculinity ingrained in him and the challenges of finding a balance between his own aspirations and his parents' expectations. He also explains how faith played a role in his life and the difficulties posed by traditional views on therapy within his community.
Lessons from Loss and Legacy
Isaac reflects on the legacies of his father and best friend, sharing personal anecdotes that shaped his perspective on life. He highlights the importance of cherishing memories, embracing vulnerability, and finding ways to honor those who are no longer with us.
My guest today is Guvna B, the MOBO-award winning rapper, author and broadcaster. He grew up on a council estate in East London and went on to study at the University of Hertfordshire before forging a full-time career in music. He's since released 10 albums and a memoir, Unspoken, in which he examines toxic masculinity and male identity.
Guvna B - otherwise known as Isaac Borquaye - joins me to talk about the death of his father, and two of his close friends, and how he had to address his grief in order to carry on living. We discuss the power of vulnerability, fatherhood and finding 'blessings in the struggle'. We talk about faith, identity, race and inter-generational trauma. Plus we discuss failures in exams, driving tests and...erm...mobile phone storage - and why he once blew £4000 on trainers in Westfield.
Thank you Isaac, for opening up with such generosity in what turned out to be a deeply inspirational conversation.
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Unspoken by Guvna B is out now and available to buy here.
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How To Fail With Elizabeth Day is hosted by Elizabeth Day, produced by Naomi Mantin and Chris Sharp. We love hearing from you. To contact us, email howtofailpod@gmail.com