Pray Instead of Changing, Finding Restoration After Infidelity, Building Authentic Community - w/ Amanda Hayhurst

In today's episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron interviews Amanda Hayhurst, author of "Pray for Him" and seminary graduate whose marriage was restored after infidelity. Through her personal journey of reconciliation, healing from father wounds, and walking through her son's cancer diagnosis, Amanda shares how prayer transformed her approach to marriage and relationships.

In this vulnerable conversation, we explore:

• How attempting to be the Holy Spirit in our spouse's life creates frustration instead of change
• The transformative power of surrendering control and praying consistently for your husband
• Why authentic community was crucial to Amanda's marriage surviving infidelity
• The freedom that comes when we stop trying to fix others and start interceding for them
• How suffering can create a raw dependency on God that we often miss in comfortable seasons
• The importance of feeling our emotions before God rather than numbing them
• Practical ways to discern when to give advice versus when to simply listen
• The healing journey from carrying father wounds into marriage to finding identity in Christ

Whether you're struggling with a desire to change your spouse, walking through a season of betrayal, feeling isolated in your pain, or simply wanting to deepen your prayer life, this conversation offers hope and practical wisdom for surrendering control and trusting God with your relationships.

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