Explore the concept of being more comfortable with wanting rather than having. Learn about the importance of taking action towards your dreams, setting actionable goals, and surrounding yourself with supportive individuals. Discover the power of joining a mastermind group for personal and professional growth. Discuss the significance of self-belief and worthiness in achieving goals and starting with the right mindset.
Examining internal stories and limiting beliefs can help identify why people feel more comfortable wanting than having.
Identifying and challenging secondary gains and fear of threatening others can help individuals overcome the comfort of wanting and take action towards their goals.
Deep dives
Comfort in Wanting vs Having
Many people feel more comfortable wanting than actually having. This episode explores why this is the case and how it leads to being stuck. The speaker encourages listeners to examine their internal stories and limiting beliefs about what they want and their own capabilities. The example of wanting to lose weight but not taking action is given to illustrate this pattern. The speaker suggests taking action or accepting oneself as ways to move out of this comfort zone.
Secondary Gain and Comfort Zone
The episode discusses the concept of secondary gain as a reason for staying in the wanting phase. Secondary gain refers to the benefits or reasons for not taking action. It might include avoiding failure or vulnerability, or staying in one's comfort zone. The speaker encourages listeners to identify their own secondary gains that keep them stuck in wanting rather than taking action towards their goals.
Fear of Threatening and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Fear of threatening others or outshining loved ones is another reason why people may be more comfortable in wanting rather than having. The episode advises listeners to challenge their limiting beliefs and change their mindset. By understanding that they are no different or less deserving than those achieving success, individuals can overcome self-doubt and take steps towards their dreams.
What are the stories you tell yourself about the things you want in life?
Do you have limiting beliefs, ideas, or thoughts about your capabilities and worthiness?
Does it feel safer to long for something than to have it?
Many of you have written to me wanting to understand, on a deeper level, what stops you from taking action toward the things you say you want.
If any of this rings true for you, read on because I am talking about why many of us find wanting more comfortable than having, and how we can get unstuck and take actions aligned with our desires.