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The Surprising Upsides of Self-Deception | Shankar Vedantam

Jun 9, 2021
Shankar Vedantam, host of Hidden Brain and author of Useful Delusions, joins the conversation to reveal the unexpected benefits of self-deception. He discusses how our brains naturally filter reality and why this can often be advantageous for happiness and relationships. Exploring topics like naive realism, he highlights how idealizing partners can enhance satisfaction and foster empathy. Vedantam also examines the balance between acknowledging mortality and the role of delusion in our mental health, urging listeners to reflect on their perceptions.
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ANECDOTE

Church of Love Con

  • Shankar Vedantam discusses the "Church of Love" con, where men fell in love with fictional women and sent money.
  • Even when the con was revealed, some defended the con man due to the perceived value of the relationship.
INSIGHT

Evolution of Self-Deception

  • Self-deception, like many biases, may be an evolutionary adaptation, not just a leftover from the past.
  • Eliminating these biases might not improve our lives; some might serve a functional purpose.
INSIGHT

Benefits of Filtered Reality & Positive Illusions

  • Our brains filter a vast amount of sensory information; what we perceive isn't reality, but a functional representation.
  • Positive illusions about loved ones can create happier, more stable relationships.
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