Join Alex DatePsych, a Neuroscience and Behavioral Science researcher specializing in dating and attractiveness, as he delves into the surprising decline in sexual activity. Discover how dating apps and societal changes are reshaping relationship dynamics. Alex discusses why young men may struggle more than ever in dating, the shifts in women’s sexual desire, and the implications of the Me Too movement. With insights on inceldom and the complexities of attraction, this conversation offers a thought-provoking look at modern romance.
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The Approach Paradox
Men fear being seen as creepy when approaching women, but women don't inherently find approaches creepy.
This disconnect creates confusion in dating, especially with online platforms adding to the complexity.
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Navigating the Post-MeToo Era
The MeToo movement aimed to sanitize creepy behavior, but may have sterilized healthy interactions.
Be mindful of social norms, but accept rejection as part of dating.
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Bill and Melinda Gates' First Date
Bill Gates called Melinda, a receptionist, for a date three weeks out, but she found him insufficiently spontaneous.
He called back 30 minutes later, offering the afternoon off; such behavior would now face criticism.
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Don't Trust Your Gut
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In 'Don’t Trust Your Gut,' Seth Stephens-Davidowitz uses extensive datasets to uncover surprising and effective strategies for life’s biggest self-help puzzles. The book reveals how data from sources like dating profiles, tax records, and career trajectories contradict our instincts and offer practical, data-driven advice on topics such as finding a mate, raising children, and achieving career success. It emphasizes the importance of relying on hard facts and figures rather than gut instincts for making smarter decisions.
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In 'Dataclysm,' Christian Rudder delves into the world of big data to examine how people behave when they think no one is watching. Using data from OkCupid and other social media platforms, Rudder explores various aspects of human behavior, including interactions based on race, gender, and other demographic factors. The book moves away from narrative storytelling and instead uses statistical analysis and data visualization to understand human behavior on a large scale.
Everybody Lies
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In this book, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz argues that while people lie in various social interactions, they are surprisingly honest when searching the internet. He uses big data from Google searches and other online activities to uncover insights into human behavior, including aspects such as racism, sex lives, parental preferences, and the impact of violent media. The book highlights the power and limitations of big data, discussing its potential to reveal deep-seated biases and improve our understanding of human nature, while also warning about its ethical implications and potential for manipulation.
Alex DatePsych is a Neuroscience and Behavioural Science researcher whose work focuses on attractiveness and dating.
We are in a new age of sexlessness. It could be that right now, the human race is having less sex than ever before. Given the rise of dating apps, the sexual revolution and hormonal birth control, how is this happening?
Expect to learn what the science says about whether girls find it creepy to be approached, whether dating is harder for young men now than in the past, why women's sexual desire declines at twice the rate of mens' in marriages, why there is a PUA to Incel Pipeline, if it's true that women's standards have risen over the last few decades, whether inceldom is all about looks and much more...
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