Growth Mindset Psychology: The Science of Self-Improvement How to Tell if Someone Will Be a Good Long-Term Partner (and find them)
Jun 10, 2025
Discover how shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance can transform your search for love. The discussion challenges common dating advice and emphasizes the importance of shared values over similar interests. Learn about the optimal search theory and how personal growth attracts better relationships. Authenticity is key; embrace who you truly are when looking for partners. Finally, assess potential matches by focusing on their family history and emotional qualities rather than just chemistry.
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Einstein's Marriages and Values
- Einstein's first wife Mileva had nearly identical values and interests to him but their marriage failed spectacularly.
- His second wife had different interests but shared a vision of life together, which proved to be a stronger foundation.
Rethinking Ideal Partners
- Sam dated someone who completely defied his youthful ideal but they had fun together.
- He realized he needed a partner happy with him being himself rather than one matching a preset ideal.
Embrace Open-Minded Dating
- Be open-minded and less judgmental to discover more potential partners.
- Go on many dates, even up to 100, to understand what you really seek and improve your chances.