ERP 242: How To Stop Being Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable Partners - An Interview With Ryan Haddon

Suppose you're with an emotionally unavailable partner. In that case, you'll find that you can feel emotionally destabilized at times, that your partner is keeping you at arm's length. You might find that you can't talk deeply about the relationship itself and about what you need and what you want and especially where the two of you as a couple are headed in the future.

In this episode, I talk with Ryan Haddon, a certified Life, and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher. She and I discuss how a person with narcissistic tendencies can emotionally keep you at bay and what you can do to shift your focus if you find yourself in one of these types of relationships.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.)

 

Bio: 

Ryan Haddon is a certified Life and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher with over 16 years of experience with clients worldwide. A sought-after public speaker for corporate retreats and wellness events, Ryan does private workshops such as “Stepping Into Your Purpose,” “The Work/Life Balance,” and “Finding Your Center.” Ryan was a keynote speaker for Visionary Women’s 2020 virtual event and a featured speaker at CAA’s 2020 global wellness event. She’s also the in-house Life Coach at Kourtney Kardashian’s website Poosh, where she writes mind/body/spirit articles.

In this episode, Ryan Haddon and I discuss: 

• Why you feel unsafe in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner.
• What does emotional unavailability look like in a partner?
• Reasons why people are emotionally unavailable.
• Why you feel lonely, unvalidated and rejected with a partner that’s emotionally unavailable.
• The checklist of behaviors that emotionally unavailable people tend to display.
• Why it can feel like you are doing all the heavy lifting inside your relationship.
• How to figure out what you can do to break the pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people.

Tweetables

“If you’re in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable, you’re most likely feeling destabilized at all times.”

Ryan Haddon

 

“When you enter into a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person you’ll feel like you’re not safe.”

Ryan Haddon

 

“Knowing that they can’t give you more than they are and if you manage to get past go, your relationship might be well underway and you might feel like you’re dancing all the time, constantly taking their emotional temperature.

Ryan Haddon

“Emotional unavailability is a good term to describe when you’re with someone who is always setting the terms, withdrawing physically and emotionally when you get too close, probably because they’re afraid to be vulnerable.”

Ryan Haddon

“It feels that one sidedness that you are always having to accept that they’re not really needing you in that same playing field that you want to be in.”

Ryan Haddon

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