Episode 142: How to Start Healing an Unhealthy Relationship (A Relationship Series, Part Five)
Sep 5, 2023
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This podcast episode discusses the subtlety and invisibility of emotional abuse, the importance of self-determination and making choices in unhealthy relationships, and the significance of self-awareness and support in the process of healing. It also explores building healthy relationships and finding community as essential parts of personal growth.
Recognizing emotional abuse and understanding the importance of self-awareness for healing in difficult relationships.
Embracing personal freedom and choices, while seeking support and community, can lead to growth and change in challenging relationships.
Deep dives
Recognizing signs of emotional abuse in relationships
In the last episode of the podcast, the host discussed the signs of emotional abuse that can occur in a relationship. This topic received a lot of response, with many people relating to the signs mentioned. The episode emphasized the importance of recognizing these signs, as it provides clarity to the situation and allows individuals to take appropriate action. It acknowledged that identifying emotional abuse can be disheartening, but it also presents an opportunity for growth and finding hope. The host highlighted the need to understand the spectrum of abusive behaviors and avoid labeling relationships in black and white terms.
Taking responsibility for one's actions in an abusive relationship
In this episode, the podcast delved into the question of what to do if someone finds themselves in an emotionally abusive relationship and realizes that they may be contributing to the problem. The host spoke about the importance of humility and acknowledging one's own role in the dynamic. It was emphasized that recognizing one's contribution to the situation does not amount to victim-blaming, but rather opens up the possibility of change and growth. The episode outlined the need for self-awareness and understanding the internal dynamics that influence behavior. It also mentioned the significance of boundaries, recommended reading resources on boundaries and healing from emotional abuse.
Finding hope and self-determination in difficult relationships
This episode explored the path to finding hope and self-determination in challenging relationships. It emphasized the importance of embracing one's freedom to make choices within the confines of a difficult dynamic. The host mentioned that while changing the behavior of others may not be possible, individuals have control over their own actions and responses. The episode highlighted the role of self-awareness, pointing to the Catholic mindfulness practice as a means of developing a deeper understanding of oneself. It also emphasized the need for support, whether through community or mentorship, to navigate the complexities of difficult relationships. The episode concluded with a message of hope, reminding listeners that no situation is without possibility for change and growth.
Welcome to Episode 142 of the Being Human Podcast: How to Start Healing an Unhealthy Relationship (A Relationship Series, Part Five)
This week, Dr. Greg follows up on last week’s episode about the warning signs of emotional abuse to answer the question “What can I do if my relationship is unhealthy?” In this episode, he breaks open three practical steps you can take to help you navigate through the challenges of a difficult relationship.
Highlights from the episode:
The subtlety and invisibility of emotional and psychological abuse;
How the parts of us that believe “if only the other person would change, my life would be better” can overshadow other more helpful parts;
Free will and self-determination as integral parts of our humanity that cannot be taken away;
The importance of identifying where we still have freedom to make a choice;
The fruitlessness of attempting to change another person’s behavior;
Understanding boundaries as necessary when making decisions in and about a relationship;
How there can be parts of us that put up roadblocks to our growth and development due to fear;
The way we react, respond, and participate in relational dynamics as a result of our personality formed in childhood;
Growth in self-awareness as essential in the process of healing;
How courage and greater strength come from support and community.
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