Many parents feel like their kids are intentionally sabotaging situations, but there's a deeper neuroscience at play. Understanding these baffling behaviors offers hope rather than frustration. The podcast delves into how sensitive children may not be manipulative but are instead seeking emotional support. It emphasizes the importance of co-regulation and emotional healing, encouraging parents to respond in ways that can positively influence their child's development.
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Brain's Predictive Function
The brain's main job is to predict the future to keep us alive.
It constantly anticipates what will happen next and behaves accordingly.
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Airport Miscommunication
Robyn Gobbel shares a story about misinterpreting a conversation at the Denver airport.
Her brain predicted a common farewell, leading to a humorous misunderstanding.
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Impact of Past Experiences
Past experiences shape our interpretations and expectations in relationships.
If we expect criticism, we are more likely to perceive and evoke critical responses.
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It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no.
You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!
All humans do it, but our kids with vulnerable nervous system and big, baffling behaviors may seem like they do it more often.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The neuroscience behind WHY our kids sabotage situations or set us up to be dysregulated
What they are really doing (and it’s actually full of hope)
How we might respond differently that could actually change their brain
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Rupture Repair podcast episode
Match the Energy not the Dysregulation podcast episode
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