The Sabrina Zohar Show 145: How to let go of seeking external validation and actually find your person
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Jun 13, 2025 Dive into the journey of self-acceptance as listeners learn to shed the need for external validation. Discover how childhood experiences and nervous system influences shape relationship patterns. Sabrina shares practical tools like the Validation Tracker to empower authenticity in dating. Explore the pitfalls of seeking validation through romantic connections and the pathway to attracting healthy love from a place of self-love. Embrace a three-part strategy to detox from external approval and foster genuine connections.
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Why We Crave Validation
- Seeking external validation is not about vanity but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood experiences.
- Conditional love in childhood teaches the nervous system to earn connection, shaping adult relationship patterns.
Performing for Approval Example
- Sabrina dated a photographer who was arrogant and gave mixed signals, but she sought his validation anyway.
- Despite feeling turned off, she performed to win his approval, leading to self-abandonment.
Use the Validation Tracker Tool
- Track every time you seek validation and note the feelings you're avoiding.
- Use this awareness to understand your anxiety and stop outsourcing your worth.