Why you should start thinking about death (w/ Alua Arthur)
Jan 22, 2024
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Alua Arthur, a death doula, discusses the importance of thinking about death without fear. She shares insights on finding joy in everyday life, navigating emotional and spiritual decisions, and planning for death. The podcast explores the role of death doulas in supporting individuals and families, and provides tips on finding a death doula who aligns with your beliefs.
Recognizing and discussing death openly is significant for individuals to approach it thoughtfully and mindfully.
Death doulas provide comprehensive non-medical care and support to the dying person and their loved ones, helping them create end-of-life plans and facilitating a peaceful passing.
Deep dives
The Importance of Acknowledging Death
In this podcast episode, the host explores the topic of death, which is an experience every human being will go through. The speaker shares a personal story about the death of a pet and highlights the significance of recognizing and openly discussing death. Emphasizing the need for thoughtful and mindful experiences at the end of life, the guest, Elua Arthur, challenges listeners to consider how they want to approach death. She encourages individuals to make end-of-life plans, ensure their affairs are in order, and strive to live well in order to die well.
The Role of a Death Doula
Elua Arthur, a death doula and founder of Going with Grace, shares insights into her work and the role of a death doula. She explains that death doulas provide holistic and non-medical care and support to the dying person and their loved ones. They help individuals create comprehensive end-of-life plans, support those with terminal illnesses in achieving the ideal death under the circumstances, and assist family members in wrapping up affairs after the person has passed away.
Embracing Joy and Laughter in the Face of Death
Elua Arthur challenges the common perception that death is somber and serious by emphasizing the presence of joy, beauty, and laughter in end-of-life experiences. She highlights that witnessing the best and worst of humanity during the dying process can reveal profound moments of tenderness, connection, and love. By acknowledging the full spectrum of emotions and experiences surrounding death, Arthur aims to reframe death as a natural part of life that can be approached with both solemnity and celebration.
The Importance of Death Literacy and Planning
Elua Arthur emphasizes the significance of death literacy and planning for everyone. She encourages individuals to engage in advanced care planning, designate decision-makers, and consider desires for life support and end-of-life care. Arthur also emphasizes the practical aspects of planning, such as organizing important documents, possessions, and biographical information. By adopting a proactive approach to death planning, individuals can ensure that their wishes are respected, alleviate unnecessary burdens on loved ones, and live a more purposeful life.
There’s a saying about two things that are inevitable in this world, and Alua Arthur wants to help you think about one of them with less fear. No, she’s not a tax professional – she’s a death doula, a person who supports dying people and their loved ones. A former lawyer, Alua shares what we can all learn when we purposefully think about the end of life, whether that is our own or someone else’s. From finding joy in our everyday lives to navigating the emotional, legal, and spiritual decisions that arise around, Alua’s wisdom will inspire you pursue to live, and “go”, with grace. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts