Too often, we say yes to every request and every demand, even when it's not what we want. It's not about people-pleasing. It's about your values. But ask yourself, is it worth it? Is sacrificing your peace and well-being a worthy cost of validating your internal dialogue?
In a world that applauds the grind, learning to say no will keep you grounded. Setting boundaries helps you care for yourself. When you care for yourself, you can look after others to the best of your ability.
In this quick dip episode, we uncover the root of the problem of our struggle with saying no. We flesh out the people-pleasing tendencies and internal shame around setting boundaries. Your value does not equate to how hard you work and how much you give yourself to other people. Set yourself free from the internal stories and scripts you’re telling yourself. Once you do, you can get clear on what truly matters.
If you want to know how to start saying yes to yourself, stay tuned to this episode.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:
- Uncover the two myths about people pleasing.
- Discover the heart of why we struggle to set boundaries and say no
- Learn strategies that will help you start saying no without guilt and shame.
Episode Highlights
[00:00] On People Pleasing
[00:58] Why We Struggle to Say No
[04:31] Feeling Shame in Setting Boundaries
[07:05] How to Start Saying No
[10:55] Your Value
Resources
- Episode 152: How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout
- Enneagram Personality Test
- Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit
- THRIVE Weekly Planner
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