What Happened to Us? Unpacking Relationship Challenges and Finding Solutions (Episode #26)

What Happened to Us? Unpacking Relationship Challenges and Finding Solutions

1. Introduction and Purpose: The podcast, hosted by Kevin Skinner, focuses on individuals struggling in their relationships, exploring why relationships fail and what can be done to prevent this.

2. Dr. Skinner shares a personal story about his niece's beautiful wedding, contrasting the joy and connection of a new relationship with the fear and challenges many face in relationships today.

3. Statistics on Marriage and Divorce: In 2022, over 2 million couples married, while approximately 750,000 to 800,000 couples divorced in the United States, highlighting a significant societal issue.

4. Common Reasons for Divorce:
   - Lack of Commitment (75%)
   - Infidelity (60%)
   - Excessive Arguing and Conflict (58%)
   - Marrying Too Young (45%)
   - Financial Problems (38%)
   - Domestic Violence (24%)

5. Dr. Skinner Emphasizes the Importance of Developing Our Relationship Skills: Emphasizes the importance of learning relationship skills, such as communication and problem-solving, to maintain strong relationships.

6. Impact of Stories: Discusses how unresolved issues lead to negative narratives that damage relationships, such as feeling unloved or unsupported by a partner.

7. Infidelity and Turning Outward: Explores how unresolved conflicts can lead to infidelity and turning to external sources for emotional needs.

8. Repairing Relationships: Highlights the importance of addressing core issues and repairing the relationship through effective communication and understanding.

9. Creating Love: Love is described as a renewable, actionable choice rather than a fleeting emotion. Actions, such as being vulnerable and acknowledging mistakes, can foster love.

10. Barbara Fredrickson's Insights: Love is essential for well-being, akin to oxygen and food, influencing our biochemistry and DNA expression.

11. Assignment: Listeners are invited to create a relationship history timeline to identify key events and unresolved issues in their relationships.

12. Commitment and Vulnerability: Emphasizes the importance of showing commitment and being vulnerable to repair and strengthen relationships.

13. Final Thoughts and Resource: Skinner encourages listeners to seek help and use available resources, such as the "Human Intimacy" webinar series and the "Relationship Dilemma" course, to improve their relationship skills.

14. **Quote by Barbara Fredrickson**: "Love is the essential nutrient that your cells crave," emphasizing the fundamental importance of love in our lives.

15. Conclusion: Encourages listeners to actively create and nurture love in their relationships, improving personal and societal well-being.

Resources Discussed:

Barbara Fredrickson’s book: Love 2.0 (Currently Free on Amazon)

The Relationship Dilemma

https://www.humanintimacy.com/course/the-relationship-dilemma-stay-or-leave

The Human Intimacy Webinar Series

https://www.humanintimacy.com/course/human-intimacy-free-webinar-series