Author and parenting activist, Debbie Reber, joins Dr. Becky to discuss different frameworks for parenting 'more' kids - deeply feeling and differently wired children. They explore embracing intensity, finding support, managing expectations, and providing support for neurodivergent kids. The podcast offers insights on navigating overwhelming feelings and resources to aid parents in understanding and supporting their unique children.
Supporting deeply feeling kids requires understanding their heightened emotional reactions and complexities.
Empowering parents of differently wired children through positive reframing and embracing individual variations in parenting approaches.
Deep dives
Understanding 'Kids Who Are More'
Kids who display heightened emotional responses, reactivity, and resistance are referred to as 'kids who are more.' These children often exhibit intense emotional reactions, from tears to meltdowns, requiring parents to navigate their complexities and nuances. Parents of such children are likened to participating in an extreme sport, where the challenges and intensities are heightened. Acknowledging and supporting the unique needs of these 'deeply feeling kids' is essential for effective parenting.
Reframing Parenting Perspectives
Shifting from deficit-based language commonly associated with neurodivergence, the concept of 'differently wired' emerges to empower parents and redefine their approach. This terminology aims to focus on positive reframing and understanding individual variations in navigating the world. By embracing this framework, parents can foster a more positive and inclusive environment for their children with diverse needs.
Challenges in Parenting Perception
Parents often face the pressure of societal norms and comparison, leading to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. The 'compare and despair' phenomenon underscores the need for parents of differently wired children to navigate external judgment and find peace with unique parenting journeys. Understanding that each child's path may unfold differently is crucial in overcoming feelings of failure and embracing individual growth.
Parenting Strategies for Growth
Encouraging parents to adopt a mindset of possibility over fear, the podcast emphasizes the importance of scaffolding children's experiences and development. By recognizing opportunities to challenge and support their children effectively, parents can cultivate resilience and competence. Balancing safety with gradual exposure to challenges builds a foundation for growth, promoting a sense of capability and fostering positive parent-child dynamics.
Some kids are just more. More emotional. More resistant. More reactive. Just more. Dr. Becky thinks of them as Deeply Feeling Kids and author and parenting activist, Debbie Reber of Tilt Parenting, thinks of them as Differently Wired. Today, Debbie joins Dr. Becky to discuss different frameworks and strategies for parents of kids who are just more.
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