E5: How to Introduce Kink and D/s Into Your Relationship
Oct 28, 2021
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Experts from KinkyEvents.co.uk Chief and Moineau discuss introducing kink and D/s dynamics in relationships. They delve into overcoming nervousness and shame, using sex menus, sharing porn, and setting judgment-free zones. Tips for beginners in Dom/sub dynamics and common issues encountered are also covered.
Communicate openly about desires to overcome challenges in introducing kink.
Initiate dom-sub dynamics by setting basic rules and maintaining power balance.
Deep dives
Challenges of Discussing Kink with Your Partner
When bringing up kink with your partner, challenges like feeling nervous, judgment, vulnerability, and fear of rejection may arise. It's essential not to yuck someone's yum and to listen actively without judgment. Communicating openly about potentially 'out there' desires or interests can pave the way for understanding and compromise.
Overcoming Nervousness and Shame in Expressing Desires
Expressing desires, especially for submissives, can be challenging due to ingrained beliefs and upbringing. Strategies like using texting or written communication can help articulate desires. Sharing and discussing erotic fiction, porn, or images can also facilitate communication about preferences and turn-ons.
Effective Communication Strategies for Exploring Kink
Establishing a 'sex menu' to rank and discuss sexual activities, sharing and explaining interests in porn or erotica, and maintaining a judgment-free zone can aid in better communication. Feedback sessions after trying new activities and setting clear expectations and boundaries are crucial.
Tips for Starting a Dom-Sub Relationship
Initiating a dom-sub dynamic can involve setting basic rules, implementing service-oriented tasks, and maintaining a clear power balance. Creating simple rules like thanking for orgasms or basic chores can enhance the power dynamic without intricate role-playing. Tips include establishing clear rules, implementing service-oriented tasks, and feedback sessions post-engagement.
In this episode of Conversations with a Dom, Chief and Moineau from KinkyEvents.co.uk discuss how to introduce kink and Dom/sub power play into your relationship for beginners. We discuss: common challenges faced when bringing up kink with your partner; techniques to overcome nervousness, shame, and improve communication in D/s, including using sex menus, sharing porn, and establishing judgement-free zones; 3 important questions to ask your partner; and common issues beginner Doms and subs encounter when starting a dynamic.
Contents
Introduction [00:00:42]
Common challenges when discussing kink with your partner [00:01:40]
Techniques to overcome nervousness, shame, and improve communication in D/s dynamics [00:07:33]
Using sex menus [00:08:03]
Sharing porn and erotic fiction [00:12:10]
Establishing a judgment-free zone [00:15:15]
Making compromises [00:18:12]
3 questions to asks your partner [00:20:29]
Getting rid of expectations and setting time limits [00:22:13]
Tips specifically for Dom/sub dynamics [00:24:17]
Common issues beginner Doms and subs encounter when starting out [00:29:38]
Wrapping up [00:31:48]
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